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Where is Home? is a coaching program for people trying to figure out where to live when the possibilities are endless.

When you can choose anywhere in the world (more or less) to live, it’s both exhilarating and paralyzing. And no wonder: more than choosing a place, you’re identifying where you belong and who you are. That’s why I created this program. I’ve applied it to my own life and used it to help others.

Together, we’ll define:

  • The values by which you want to live

  • Experiments you can run to gain confidence before making a final decision

  • Best ways to thrive in the in-between, aka “magic zone”

  • (time permitting) Fun ways to settle in and build belonging

 
 
 

If you’re asking this question and the answer isn’t straightforward, it’s likely because it falls into the camp of “hard decisions.” 

A hard decision:

  • Is defined as one in which more than one choice can be right, but for very different reasons. 

  • Feels like a leap of faith (”I suppose I have to move to NY to see if I like NY”) 

  • Is really easy to second guess (”was this the right choice? what about the alternative I didn’t pick?”). 

I’ve designed programs to address those three challenges by:

  • The reason this exploration becomes hard and often paralyzing is that it brings up questions about what you value most at this stage of your life. If you can choose anywhere, what are the constraints by which you ought to choose? Criteria (like city or country, north or south, etc.) often fail to help because they’re not actually spelling out your values. So we start by identifying the values by which you want to live in this phase of your life.

  • Even armed with our values, it can still feel impossible to choose… this is where experimentation comes to play. And I mean that literally: the goal of designing experiments is to make gathering more information and gaining more confidence lighter and more fun. We’ll do this by identifying questions that, if answered, would gain you clarity. And we’ll then design light and nimble experiments you can run.

  • One of the things that keeps us in a state of uncertainty about identifying home is that, when we can live anywhere, there’s no reason we can’t pick up and move once we’ve chosen a place… in a phrase, nothing is constraining us. So settling in is the critical third leg to balance this stool: commitment creates commitment. And you help douse the voice in your head that asks “have I chosen well?” by actively designing how you’ll settle in and build belonging.

 
 
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The Where is Home? Core Program addresses the first two pillars above (the third can be addressed separately once you arrive in your place).

There are two ways to access this program: as private coaching and as offsites for cohorts.  

You’ll leave with:

  • New clarity about what’s most important to you right now

  • Actionable next steps and shared commitments

  • Tools to continue to proactively navigate this and other hard decisions

  • (Offsite version): A cohort of new friends in a similar life stage

  • One hour 1:1 ahead of the offsite

    One full day of immersion (8 hours) for up to 10 people

    Two 1:1 check-in experiences of 30 minutes (per person, up to two months from the offsite)

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    Amy is available for two months post offsite via email for questions (48 hour turnaround except weekends, holidays, and vacations)

  • A two-month experience

    We meet over zoom for a total of four sessions, approximately twice a month

    The first call is 2 hours, remaining calls are 90 minutes. Each call focuses on a different activity to support your exploration (Identifying Ahas and Curiosities, Honing in on Values, Crafting Experiments, etc.)

    A private Notion portal with all relevant materials, including recaps of key points of our conversations

    Together we agree on activities for you to complete between sessions

    Amy is available by email between sessions (48 hour turnaround except weekends, holidays, and vacations)

“Working with Amy is a dream. Think back to the best brainstorm you've ever experienced... ideas are flowing, it's a whole lot of fun. Now imagine the thing you're trying to solve is yourself. That's what the 'Where is Home?' program is like. Amy is supportive, collaborative, and a master synthesizer. She has helped me take big questions—like "what's important to me right now in a home?" or "how do I build community in a new place?" or "how will I know when it feels right?"—and break them down into tangible steps and experiments to prototype and try out.”

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Are you trying to decide
Where is Home?
Here’s a tool to get you started:

Pro-con lists tend to fail us when it comes to hard decisions (where more than one choice can be right but for different reasons). Instead, we benefit by getting clear on what’s most important to us right now. Then starting to look at our options. The Circle of Clarity activity will help you do that.

Circles of Clarity Activity: the first step to confidently choosing Where is Home?

Check out my activity for helping you gain a better understanding of what's important to you right now, the first step in gaining confidence and making this decision with clarity.

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